Module #2
Perspective “It is all a matter of how you look at it” ~ Coachfucious
Your perspective determines your experience in life, not your circumstances.
Discussion
When have you experienced a change in your perspective? What did it take for you to change
your point of view?
I have experienced a change in perspective many times throughout my life and like the example in the module; it has generally taken an event to make that change come about. When I think back to a time in my life that I became stuck, hurt and angry. A time when I did not know how to move on, if at that time I could have asked myself “How is your current perspective helping the situation?” I believe that that question would have facilitated a quicker turn around, but all things are as they are meant to be and I came out in the fashion and the timing that I knew and accepted at that point in my life.
How will helping your clients change their perspective make a difference in their lives?
Helping my clients to look at and change the perspectives that are not allowing the client the results that they seek will teach the client that sometimes we just have to get out of our own way. The differences that will come about are too numerable to be able to mention, but one important one I think will be in how the client thinks.
Changing Perspective
Reflection and Application
What would be possible if you were a master at re-framing your own perspectives?
I feel that most anything could be made possible, certainly complete fulfillment would be an outcome – but if I was a master at re-framing my own perspectives then I would be able to help others quite easily as well.
What else might you need to obtain complete happiness and fulfillment?
Someone to share it with.
5 powerful questions to ask to shift or re-frame a perspective
What is your perspective on this that is giving you this result?
How is your current perspective helping you to achieve your goal?
What would be a perspective that would help you to achieve your goal?
What in your perspective would be the worst thing that could result in this situation?
Saying that the worst has already taken place, what would your perspective then become?
Discussion
In your view, what are the three most powerful perspectives from which someone could live their life?
Everything is at it should be.
Everyone is a diamond in the rough.
Live to your fullest right now in this moment and all the future moments will follow suit.
What is a disempowering perspective you have been using lately?
I think that I am a terrible public speaker as I get too nervous, my face turns red, I speak far too quickly and then I don’t fully express that which I am trying to get across.
Reflection and Application
Pick an area of your life, or someone else’s life, where a problem has persisted for some time. Discern the perspective, and reframe it.
I feel that with many areas in my life that I don’t quite make it to the finish line – I get so close to completing, to achieving the goal I set out for and have fallen short time and time again.
“Name at least 5 things you have you accomplished.”
1. I have gotten myself into a regular exercise schedule for the past 10 months.
2. I have released weight and reduced my size my two sizes.
3. I have secured a full time job where people rely and trust me.
4. I help people with my humour on a daily basis.
5. I have a partner of 14yrs.
6. I have painted a few good pictures.
7. I have created some works of art that people cherish.
“So could you agree that there have been times in your life where you haven’t fallen short and have succeeded in achieving your goal?”
Yes I could agree that I have accomplished some of my goals.
“Would you say then that your perspective isn’t totally truthful?”
Yes, it is only some of my set goals that I have not achieved.
“How does that perspective change your feelings on your past achievement level”?
It lifts the weight, now that I see that I have achieved just as many things as I feel I haven’t achieved, it makes my goals seem possible.
“What was your previous perspective”?
I think it was a perspective of not being worthy. Not worthy of achieving those goals for reasons that seem kind of silly now. – You see I felt that because I did not attend college or university that I don’t know as much, that because I missed that which everyone else did that I missed out on something absolutely pertinent in life. By listing just a few of my accomplishments makes me realize that my achievements are just that, my achievements and I reached them without going through a higher education. I reached them due to my own brand of determination, drive, ambition, desire, and of course love. Because of my disempowering perspective around some of my chosen goals it blocked my way to achieve. To reframe it I think it would look like this, “that from time to time I have not completed a few of my goals – if the goals are worthy then I will, with time achieve all that I set my mind to.” “If I put into practise the same game plan as with those that I have achieved then nothing can get in my way.”
I spoke with a friend who couldn’t understand why she couldn’t approach a man first, why she just clammed up when someone she was interested in came near. I asked her why she felt that women shouldn’t approach men first and when she gave me her answer I asked if this was her belief and perspective or had she adopted it from someone else. I asked what would be the worst thing that could result should she be the first to approach, the worst thing she came up with was that she would have to get a new gym membership and get red in the face. I asked if she has ever had a red face before and if she has been a member of a different gym. She laughed – realizing that she could live through being the first to approach a man – yes she would be nervous but she would survive to tell about it. She came to me a few days later claiming her success – if they are dating I am unsure at this time.
My final thoughts….
How do perspectives and opinions differ?
dictionary results for: perspective per·spec·tive /pərˈspɛk tɪv noun
.
the state of one's ideas, the facts known to one, etc., in having a meaningful interrelationship: You have to live here a few years to see local conditions in perspective
dictionary results for: opinion o·pin·ion /əˈpɪn yən/ –noun
1.
a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty.
2.
a personal view, attitude, or appraisal.
3.
the formal expression of a professional judgment: to ask for a second medical opinion.
4.
a judgment or estimate of a person or thing with respect to character, merit, etc.: to forfeit someone's good opinion.
5.
a favourable estimate; esteem: I haven't much of an opinion of him.
Based on the dictionary definitions my perspective would be that opinions are what are formed based on one’s perspective of the situation. Opinions are judgement and therefore can be difficult to change or alter. Changing or re-framing a perspective is going directly to the root of the situation and therefore can result in a change of opinion.
Re-framing is a simple technique. As you break your perspective down step by step it becomes easily apparent where the shift needs to take place in order to move forward. What a wonderful tool!
Perspective “It is all a matter of how you look at it” ~ Coachfucious
Your perspective determines your experience in life, not your circumstances.
Discussion
When have you experienced a change in your perspective? What did it take for you to change
your point of view?
I have experienced a change in perspective many times throughout my life and like the example in the module; it has generally taken an event to make that change come about. When I think back to a time in my life that I became stuck, hurt and angry. A time when I did not know how to move on, if at that time I could have asked myself “How is your current perspective helping the situation?” I believe that that question would have facilitated a quicker turn around, but all things are as they are meant to be and I came out in the fashion and the timing that I knew and accepted at that point in my life.
How will helping your clients change their perspective make a difference in their lives?
Helping my clients to look at and change the perspectives that are not allowing the client the results that they seek will teach the client that sometimes we just have to get out of our own way. The differences that will come about are too numerable to be able to mention, but one important one I think will be in how the client thinks.
Changing Perspective
Reflection and Application
What would be possible if you were a master at re-framing your own perspectives?
I feel that most anything could be made possible, certainly complete fulfillment would be an outcome – but if I was a master at re-framing my own perspectives then I would be able to help others quite easily as well.
What else might you need to obtain complete happiness and fulfillment?
Someone to share it with.
5 powerful questions to ask to shift or re-frame a perspective
What is your perspective on this that is giving you this result?
How is your current perspective helping you to achieve your goal?
What would be a perspective that would help you to achieve your goal?
What in your perspective would be the worst thing that could result in this situation?
Saying that the worst has already taken place, what would your perspective then become?
Discussion
In your view, what are the three most powerful perspectives from which someone could live their life?
Everything is at it should be.
Everyone is a diamond in the rough.
Live to your fullest right now in this moment and all the future moments will follow suit.
What is a disempowering perspective you have been using lately?
I think that I am a terrible public speaker as I get too nervous, my face turns red, I speak far too quickly and then I don’t fully express that which I am trying to get across.
Reflection and Application
Pick an area of your life, or someone else’s life, where a problem has persisted for some time. Discern the perspective, and reframe it.
I feel that with many areas in my life that I don’t quite make it to the finish line – I get so close to completing, to achieving the goal I set out for and have fallen short time and time again.
“Name at least 5 things you have you accomplished.”
1. I have gotten myself into a regular exercise schedule for the past 10 months.
2. I have released weight and reduced my size my two sizes.
3. I have secured a full time job where people rely and trust me.
4. I help people with my humour on a daily basis.
5. I have a partner of 14yrs.
6. I have painted a few good pictures.
7. I have created some works of art that people cherish.
“So could you agree that there have been times in your life where you haven’t fallen short and have succeeded in achieving your goal?”
Yes I could agree that I have accomplished some of my goals.
“Would you say then that your perspective isn’t totally truthful?”
Yes, it is only some of my set goals that I have not achieved.
“How does that perspective change your feelings on your past achievement level”?
It lifts the weight, now that I see that I have achieved just as many things as I feel I haven’t achieved, it makes my goals seem possible.
“What was your previous perspective”?
I think it was a perspective of not being worthy. Not worthy of achieving those goals for reasons that seem kind of silly now. – You see I felt that because I did not attend college or university that I don’t know as much, that because I missed that which everyone else did that I missed out on something absolutely pertinent in life. By listing just a few of my accomplishments makes me realize that my achievements are just that, my achievements and I reached them without going through a higher education. I reached them due to my own brand of determination, drive, ambition, desire, and of course love. Because of my disempowering perspective around some of my chosen goals it blocked my way to achieve. To reframe it I think it would look like this, “that from time to time I have not completed a few of my goals – if the goals are worthy then I will, with time achieve all that I set my mind to.” “If I put into practise the same game plan as with those that I have achieved then nothing can get in my way.”
I spoke with a friend who couldn’t understand why she couldn’t approach a man first, why she just clammed up when someone she was interested in came near. I asked her why she felt that women shouldn’t approach men first and when she gave me her answer I asked if this was her belief and perspective or had she adopted it from someone else. I asked what would be the worst thing that could result should she be the first to approach, the worst thing she came up with was that she would have to get a new gym membership and get red in the face. I asked if she has ever had a red face before and if she has been a member of a different gym. She laughed – realizing that she could live through being the first to approach a man – yes she would be nervous but she would survive to tell about it. She came to me a few days later claiming her success – if they are dating I am unsure at this time.
My final thoughts….
How do perspectives and opinions differ?
dictionary results for: perspective per·spec·tive /pərˈspɛk tɪv noun
.
the state of one's ideas, the facts known to one, etc., in having a meaningful interrelationship: You have to live here a few years to see local conditions in perspective
dictionary results for: opinion o·pin·ion /əˈpɪn yən/ –noun
1.
a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty.
2.
a personal view, attitude, or appraisal.
3.
the formal expression of a professional judgment: to ask for a second medical opinion.
4.
a judgment or estimate of a person or thing with respect to character, merit, etc.: to forfeit someone's good opinion.
5.
a favourable estimate; esteem: I haven't much of an opinion of him.
Based on the dictionary definitions my perspective would be that opinions are what are formed based on one’s perspective of the situation. Opinions are judgement and therefore can be difficult to change or alter. Changing or re-framing a perspective is going directly to the root of the situation and therefore can result in a change of opinion.
Re-framing is a simple technique. As you break your perspective down step by step it becomes easily apparent where the shift needs to take place in order to move forward. What a wonderful tool!
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